To Whom It May Concern

Dear Santa,

::wads up paper and throws in the trash::

Dear God,

::wads up paper and throws in the trash::

To Whom it May Concern:

I am aware that most people are counting down the days until Christmas. I, of course, am looking forward to this most joyous holiday as well. However, there is another important countdown that has been on my mind lately.

In 17 days our house will go on the market. again. January 1, 2011. That is the day. The day that will begin what I hope will be a quick process to our fresh start. Last time it wasn’t a quick process. It was the longest.shittiest.process ever. Our house sat on the market for six months. I tried to clean and organize while entertaining a constantly up-to-no-good toddler. And did I mention I was pregnant during this time? No? Well, I was. It sucked. That is, the cleaning sucked. Not the having a new baby part. That part was pretty awesome.

Anyway, I wanted to write this letter asking you for one thing. Er, two things actually, if it’s not too much trouble. I wasn’t quite sure on who to address in this letter. But hopefully, just by writing it, it will get to the right person.

#1. Let our house sell
#2. Let us build a new house

You see, last time I feel like I begged and prayed and PLEADED with anyone who would listen to puh-leeze just let our house sell. Although it is cute it is not big enough for our family of four. We have two bedrooms and though some nights the brothers-sharing-a-room-thing works, other nights it’s an absolute nightmare. When the baby starts crying and screaming the toddler gets woken up too. And fat chance getting both of them to go back to sleep. My husband and I aren’t getting much sleep. Our baby is seven-months-old and sleep is still like trying to find water in a desert. I hate to sound greedy. Because I know our boys having their own rooms isn’t a necessity. But separate rooms would sure help a lot.

I accepted the fact that I didn’t get to create a beautiful nursery for my second son. And in turn, you provided me with six amazing months of him sleeping right next to me. I accepted the fact that I lost my closet and gave up most of my clothes and shoes to Goodwill. And in turn, you provided me with the most amazing job I could have asked for at the perfect time!

I have watched as others sold their homes and moved on. I offer congratulations and wish them well as they pack up their boxes and begin their new adventure. I am truly happy for them although it takes a lot of pride-swallowing to get there. But I still look out my window and wonder why my view remains the same. Why, when my heart feels so full with a desire, has it been fulfilled for others. But not for us? When will it be our turn?

I know if we had to we could make this house work for longer but I feel I’ve been patient. We just want a house that makes more sense for our family. Where our boys can have room to play and not knock stuff over at every turn because the walls are closing in on us.

Last time, when six months came and went, I finally accepted that we would have to stay a bit longer. I’m even prepared to be here another six months if that’s what it takes. But please. Oh, please. Let it sell this time. Let someone come in and fall in love with it. Just like we did nearly four years ago.

We’ve done so much to make it right for someone.

Drastic price reduction
Brand new carpet in the bedroom
Brand new energy efficient windows
Brand new patio door
Brand new matching range
Neutral paint
Rental furniture to stage the house
I’m even willing to throw in my front loading washer and dryer (believe me, I will cry if I have to leave them behind)

Everything else has fallen into place in our lives. Except this. I know the market is still terrible. But I also know that this house is a good house. And there is someone out there right now whose new house is waiting. It’s cozy. It’s welcoming. It’s ready. Will you send them our way?

Sincerely,
Hopeful Sellers

p.s.

I thought I would show you what I dream of every night. It’s the house we have chosen to build when our current house sells. Please, whoever you are, help us get here. This is perfect. This is our new home. This is where my boys will grow up.

Answers to Questions: Part 1

Have you had to buy a lot of “new” baby items since having Brigham? Any “must-haves” that I should look into getting that you didn’t already have with Landon?

My answer will probably be different from most second-timers because of the specific situation we were in while I was pregnant with Brigham. We did not buy a lot of “new” baby items for Brigham. This is mainly for three reasons: #1. I quit my job shortly before finding out I was pregnant so money was tight #2. We had much of what we needed already because we saved practically everything from Landon’s infancy and #3. We only have two bedrooms so Brigham didn’t get his own room. It wasn’t as much fun not being able to buy a bunch of new baby stuff and decorate a nursery. But now I see that we have saved hundreds if not thousands of dollars reusing Landon’s baby items. That makes me feel good! We truly had most of what we needed after having one baby boy.

Must have items we saved and used with both boys . . .

Mini Arm’s Reach Cosleeper: We used this for Landon and we are currently still using it for Brigham. I love having my baby right next to me when they are so small. It gives me peace of mind to look over at them whenever I want without getting out of bed! I love the clean lines and small size, which fits perfectly in our tiny bedroom. It also has storage underneath for extra blankets and diapers. And storage is a must-have considering we only have two closets that are already full!

The Boppy: I really don’t know how we’d get along without it. We used it for feedings with Landon and now I use it to prop Brigham up when I nurse. It’s the perfect pillow for feeding assistance. I just bought a couple new covers and voila! Good as new.

Baby K’tan Carrier: I bought this baby carrier shortly after Landon was born. I was at the hospital for an appointment with the lactation consultant who had told me that a wrap might help with my post-partum carpal tunnel syndrome. It was extremely painful to pick Landon up and hold him so I went to check them out. At the time, I knew nothing about babywearing and had never researched carriers/wraps. The hospital store had two choices and Baby K’tan was one of them. I got it home and ended up using it every day until Landon outgrew it. I don’t know why I didn’t go buy a new one because I loved wearing Landon. I pulled it out for Brigham too and it was an even bigger help this time! When Brigham wouldn’t stop crying in the beginning all I had to do was put him in the wrap and he would fall asleep. I even nursed him in it! Plus, I had my hands free for Landon. I have been meaning to research new carriers because Brigham has outgrown the K’tan already.

The one must have item we bought new . . .
 
Baby Jogger City Mini Double Stroller: Just as I suspected this stroller is amazing! We finally bought one and it is nothing short of a miracle. Landon is still young enough to sit in a stroller and Brigham is old enough that we didn’t need to buy the car seat adapter. So we bit the bullet and invested the money. I found out that USA Baby price-matches all items. They will even match internet prices and sales! So I found the cheapest price online, printed off the page and took it to the store. Instead of spending $399 we spent $320. And we didn’t have to pay for shipping since we bought it in-store! I hope to sell it when we’re done using it. It is so light while pushing both boys and makes it much easier to do things like take a walk or go to the zoo!
 
What is your favorite time of the day?
 
Let’s get this out in the open, shall we? I don’t like mornings. Not one bit. It takes me a long time to get around and feel awake after the sun comes up. I’m like that guy on the McDonald’s commercial who won’t talk to people until he’s had his coffee. For real. I don’t like it when my chipper coworkers want to have a 15-minute-long conversation about the swimming tournament their daughter participated in and OH, you should have seen her backstroke! The whole time I’m thinking . . . “Please, stop talking or my head might explode.”
 
My favorite time of the day has always been nighttime. I’m a night owl. I love staying up late. I get my best ideas and inspiration when the sun goes down. But mostly it’s just quiet and the hussle and bustle of the day is over. I’m more relaxed. I’m at home in my pajama pants and I can do what I please. Frosted mini wheats at midnight? Yes, please.
 
Of course, having babies put the kabosh on the night owl routine. I quickly realized that if I stay up late I lose the precious hours of sleep needed to be able to function the next day. Because kids? They tend to wake up early. So if I fiddle around playing snood until 1 a.m. and Landon decides that I want a 5:30 a.m. wake-up call? Let’s just say it’s not a pretty sight. So I try to get to bed by 11 p.m.
 
What do you do to wind down at the end of the day? Or do you even have some alone time? :)

Alone time? What’s that? All jokes aside, I don’t really get any alone time right now. But I have a 2-year-old, a 4-month-old and a full-time job. That’s to be expected, right? Being at work doesn’t count because I am constantly surrounded by people and I’m working so I don’t have that respite there either.

Being a parent to a newborn the second time around has been very different. Different in the sense that I have perspective that things will get better as Brigham gets older. I remember when we finally started putting Landon down for the night around 7:30 or 8:00 p.m. I honestly didn’t know what to do with myself! I had three or sometimes four hours to do what I wanted before my bedtime. It was strange but also a welcome break. Suddenly, I wasn’t just mom. I was Molly! Most of what I did was cuddle Roxie the pug who lost her place on my lap when Landon was born, read magazines {a guilty pleasure of mine}, catch up on television shows and write posts for my blog and/or read blogs I love {my faves to come later}.
 
Right now, I don’t get those extra hours anymore. Landon still goes to bed between 7:30 to 8:00 p.m. but Brigham doesn’t finish nursing until 9:00 to 9:30 p.m. and by the time I put him down I am exhausted. Both physically and mentally. On the rare occasion my eyelids aren’t involuntarily shutting . . . Naaman and I will pop popcorn and watch an episode of Dexter, our new favorite show on Netflix {a must watch if you ask me}.
 
And just so you know I am okay with our schedule right now. It’s my new reality and I wouldn’t trade it for the world. But I will be happy when Brigham goes to bed at the same time as Landon. I already have a growing list of books I would like to read {since we shut off cable}!

Are you a natural blonde?

Yep, I sure am. I began getting highlights and dyeing my hair during my first year of college because with each year my hair color seemed to grow in darker. Last year I decided to become a brunette. It’s something I always wanted to try. No offense to all you dark-haired ladies out there but it just didn’t work on my hair. That dark color lasted all of three days and then became a mousy light brown. I hated it. I have spent an entire year trying to get back to my original color. I have gone to three different salons, spent a total of 6 hours and more than $300 to find a color I like to no avail. Recently I decided to take a leap of faith and do an at-home hair color treatment. I figured if I screwed it up I was only out $8 and I could just go to a salon to try to get it fixed. But thanks to Sarah Jessica Parker and my new friend Garnier Nutrisse I am finally back to a color that I love. And I don’t have to spend an hour and over $100 bucks for it :)

More answers on the way! All good questions so keep ’em comin!